Overcoming Premature Ejaculation Are you suffering from premature ejaculation?
Do you really want to prevent premature ejaculation? If there are people with these conditions; that is ejaculating at faster or slower rate, then do not worry this article will ensure your problems are addressed.
Do you think ejaculation problem an issue of mind or matter?
Well to some women, they are not really concerned with the time it takes for their partners to ejaculate during a sexual intercourse. This issue has faced a heated debate in the recent past with some people such as Ian Kerner, a sex therapist advising men to ensure before engaging in any sexual intercourse, they make sure their partners’ orgasm is at the brink. This will make the victims of premature ejaculations feel that they are fully satisfied.
Substantially if a man takes longer than expected to ejaculate when the two are having sex, then no one should be worried because that delayed ejaculation will have no effect on the individuals’ sexual intercourse; they will enjoy having sex without any interference of premature ejaculation.
There are also a substantial group of men who will always mind their ejaculation duration. Together with their partners, these people really are really mindful of their men ejaculations. Several studies have indicated that mind always plays an essential role in creating and overcoming premature ejaculation. Below are some of the tips one may rely on to successfully overcome premature ejaculations.
General Ejaculation Problems
There are three basic things associated with ejaculation.
- In the recent past, there have been many men complaining about their sexual performance and premature ejaculation. These complaints prompted a sociologist by the name Edward Laumann to carry outcome investigative findings on the data which had been previously gathered by the National Health and Social Life Survey. Upon the study of the data, Mr. Laumann realized that many men love prolonging intercourse to obtain maximum pleasure for themselves and their partners.
- According to an estimated data, delayed ejaculations only affect 3% of men. Subsequently, it is the most poorly understood ejaculation problem. There are also some studies which have revealed that there are men who at all instances cannot reach orgasm.
- However, there some studies which have revealed that Retrograde ejaculation has the least effect on men. It simply makes semen to go back to the bladder other than releasing them via the penis. This semen is then later released from the body when an individual urinates. Retrograde ejaculation is prevalent in men who are diabetic, those having damaged nerves and whose sphincter muscles have been damaged during surgery. This type of ejaculation is harmless and cannot interfere with the orgasm feelings.
Retrograde ejaculation has been proven to facilitate post sex cleanliness. Since this type of ejaculation interferes with fertility, it is therefore recommended that men suffering from a type of ejaculation should seek medical attention.
Causes of Delayed Ejaculation
There are different factors which cause delayed ejaculation. Some of which include antidepressants. For many men, age has been the main contributor to delayed ejaculation. As men grow older, their penis nerve endings become less sensitive.
Another problem associated with the age is that when an individual grows older, the erection ability goes down making it difficult for one to ejaculate. According to Barbara Keesling, a Ph.D. holder and an author, age of a man play an important role in containing the occurrence of delayed ejaculation in men. In her case, she argued using a case of an old man of fifty years. She claimed that how can someone make love to a man over 50 years?
There are also some studies which have indicated that individuals’ masturbation technique can also lead to delayed ejaculation. When one adopts a masturbation practice which involves intense pressure, friction and speed, then the body of such individuals respond to stimulation.
Accordingly, Michael A. Perelman has tried to get men with delayed orgasm to construct its relationship with a masturbation moratorium. In this case, he concluded that masturbation moratorium contributes to delayed ejaculation by building up a sexual desire which provides a mechanism that reduces orgasm arousal.
Despite all these, masturbation can also help to cure delayed ejaculation. Perelman also advised that if a man can alter his masturbation style, there such a person can substantially reduce chances of experiencing delayed ejaculations. Therefore instead just achieving orgasm, Perelman encourages men to have sexual fantasy experiences of masturbation. To achieve this, men should try to approximate the speed, the pressure, and the ejaculation techniques.
Perelman has also tried to put forward that when a man is capable of approximating the speed, the pressure and technique of ejaculation, then simulation experienced through oral, vaginal or manual may be one of the best and enjoyable as those engaging in sexual intercourse would want it to last longer. This practice makes masturbation dress rehearsal for sex. He further said that continued fantasy even after having sex can help an individual to be healthy and reduce delayed ejaculation.
Cures for Premature Ejaculations
Having delayed orgasm facilitates delayed ejaculation in men. There are also people who believe that if a man can double the number of his orgasm on weekly basis, then such a man can substantially reduce the subsequent occurrence of premature ejaculation.
Other Means of Treating Premature Ejaculation
The distraction of an individual’s orgasm may be something boring or disgusting but very useful in preventing the occurrence of premature ejaculation in men. William Masters and Virginia Johnson elaborated this claim by developing a technique called “a squeeze-pause” which they also called “penis grip” to reduce individuals desire for sexual climax. As the name suggests, this technique involves squeezing the penis as the orgasm approaches.
Perelman makes good of the variation which exists between Masters and Johnson Technique by educating the men how the variation which exists between the two claims can help them last longer when having sex. This involves men slowing themselves down and thus altering their body movement. These movements can be altered in such a way that the opposite partners (the woman) obtain the maximum pressure. This can be done without overexciting but just maintaining erection.
Antidepressants for Premature Ejaculation?
For a man, premature ejaculation is a crippling thing to experience. But the good news is that antidepressants can be used positively to treat premature ejaculation. However, it is paramount to seek the doctor’s advice before starting to use them. The level of serotonin can be positively balanced with the help of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI).
Serotonin is responsible for the control of sex drive among other body functions. When the level of serotonin in the brain is not balanced, it will impair the functions of this key function in a man’s life. For any man who is finding it hard to last more than 2 to 3 minutes during sex, an intake of the SSRI antidepressant will go a long way to cause calmness. When this happens, the rate of response to ejaculation will be reduced.
However, there are other techniques that can be used as well to delay ejaculation. For example, using the start and stop method, squeezing among other techniques will help improve the sex experience.
Treating Ejaculation Problems
The primary cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety. This feeling prevents a man from having a clear mind so as to concentrate on sexual intercourse with his partner. The antidepressant works to calm you down.
Mostly, the antidepressant is given in low doses. A dose of between 30 and 60 mg is given. The antidepressant helps to induce a relaxed mood to help a man penetrate and maintain a strong erection for a long time without ejaculating.
However, it is crucial to use this drug under the supervision of a doctor. This is because antidepressants are addictive. If you use them for long, the body will start tolerating them and hence you will require even a higher dose for them to work. Therefore, ensure that you use small doses of antidepressants as a treatment for your premature ejaculation.
Antidepressants have been used successfully to cure premature ejaculations. But the dose taken should be monitored strictly to avoid addiction. In addition to that, ensure that you are using the right kind of antidepressant to treat your premature ejaculation problem.
Premature ejaculation does not affect only you as a man, it also affects your partner. Therefore, ensure that you discuss this with your partner openly. In addition to that, find out what might be the reason behind your problem. It might be psychological factors. Learn how your central nervous system works such that you can control it and make it work to your advantage. Also, try using different styles like squeezing so as to improve your sex life.